1st time dating
Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.
It's always your best bet to take your Internet conversation into the real world as soon as possible before you establish a virtual rapport that can become awkward and stilted when it has to translate into face-to-face.
“Sometimes we are our own worst enemies in that when our hopes and fantasies clash with reality, we tend to over-focus on the fantasy and make excuses for or rationalize the reality,” she explains. I’d advise the same degree of self-awareness that I’d suggest to women in order to avoid the mess that can ensue as a result.” If your Spidey Sense tells you something’s amiss—say she’s 10 years older than she led you to believe, swapped out her pic for someone else’s on her profile, or invites you to her sister’s wedding for your next date—there’s nothing wrong with cutting your losses, as long as you do it [pagebreak] According to Davidson, the end of a meet-up date can be awkward, especially if you aren’t sure if you want to see her again.
“One way to handle it is to say something like, ‘I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you.
Joy Davidson, the stakes are generally higher for her.
“Remember that getting ready for a first ‘meet-up’ takes as much time and effort for a woman as a real first date,” Davidson explains.
“On the other hand, if you’re certain you want to see her again, before you part, suggest getting together over the weekend.
Then follow up in less than a day with suggestions for your next date.
How can you turn an awkward first date with the man of your dreams into the relationship you’ve dreamed of?
“She’ll spend time doing her hair, applying her makeup oh-so-perfectly, choosing the right outfit—all of which is easily an hour or more out of her day.
You won’t be spending the same amount of prep time, so consider that her investment has already trumped yours, and make it worth her while.” Davidson suggests that you meet somewhere that you’d take a “real” first date, not just a “check-her-out” prospect.
So if she's being a little less forthcoming with personal information or unwilling to go somewhere more private, she’s exercising common sense.
Let her, and also bear in mind that common sense works both ways—the aforementioned cautions all hold merit, for her as well as for [pagebreak] One of the biggest mistakes of online communication is thinking a relationship forged from over-sharing is the real deal.